Tantric Sexuality Lessons
How to set up a sacred space for your lovemaking - Ma Anand Leandra
First of all, I have to tell you all that many tanrikers do not make love when they go to bed in the evenings. They go to bed to sleep and the bedroom is a place for sleeping. Often the sacred room is another room in the house which is beautifully decorated to create the space needed to give sexuality the special place it should have in our lives. This room is sometimes called the Tantra Temple and sometimes simply, the Sacred Room.
Those that do not have an extra room use the bedroom, but take some time before love making to change it into a sacred space. You can have a box of goodies which you open up and arrange in the room after taking away all the everyday items. The bedroom should be free of clutter and you arrange a few drapes and set up your alter, perhaps have a special lamp which you use for lighting etc.
Tantrikers also make dates with their partners for love making. It is not something that is done in a quickie-style.
So try this: make a date with your partner for love making. Have enough time, at least 2- 3 hours to spare in order to allow yourselves the necessary time to warm up at the beginning of the date and to cool down afterwards before continuing with daily life. If the time factor means you have sex less often, do not think that this is a problem. The experience of tantric sex is so fulfilling that your body and your emotions will be filled with the experience for days afterwards.
The Sacred Room
This room usually has a large queen or king size futon mattress on the floor. Futons are great for sex as they have the hardness required in order to move around without wobbling too much. Having the mattress on the floor also enhances love making. Many tantric rituals begin with sitting opposite each other on the mattress etc. I will describe more of this in further lessons. It is best to have the mattress in the middle of the room so that you are able to move all around it. There is some lovely stuff to be done sitting at the head or the feet of your partner or if you are massaging, also from the head bending over your partner to massage the front of the body. This allows the breasts and also the genitals to be close to the face, softly touching the face and chest as you massage softly (more about this too in further lessons).
Then the room needs soft drapes, not only on at the window, but in other places too - around a mirror, above or behind the bed. The bed itself need a lovely fitted sheet and if you are using oils to massage, a waterproof sheet underneath. I like using white, but you may prefer something more exotic. A variety of pillows and cushions are also required in order to make your selves comfortable.
You need to make a small altar. On this you place a candle and any ornaments that have an importance to you. This can be a small eastern statue of the Buddha or one of the Goddesses, Shakti or Durga for example or of Shakti and Shiva in a loving embrace. Incense is also lovely to have adding a sensual smell to the room. Then also place some fresh or dried flowers or petals on the altar.
Soft music is essential. So a small recorder for your CD's or an iPod would be a good idea. The lighting should be soft, it should not be dark as Tantra is done in the light not the dark. You need to be able to see each other for various rituals such as eye gazing.
Once all this is done, the loving may begin.
Namaste
Leandra