Tantric Sexuality Lessons
Comparing "normal" sex and tantric sex...
Tantric Sex isn't the same as the kind of love-play most of us have grown up with. This table is a basic comparison between normal sex and tantric sex.
What is normal sex and what is tantric sex?
Normal Sex |
Tantric Sex |
|
Intention |
Orgasm is the goal | No goal, continuing pleasure, orgasm not a necessity |
Focus |
Physical event | Spiritual Meditation |
Energy |
Building & releasing arousal as fast as possible | Moving energy up the chakras and throughout the whole body continuously |
Erogenous Zones |
Awaken the genitals | Awaken the whole body |
Expectations |
Performance anxiety for the male: will I get a hard on? Resulting in stress. (dependant on the attractivness of the female) Orgasm anxiety for females: will I have an orgasm? Rresulting in stress. (dependent on the capabibilities of the male) |
Both male and female respond to impulses in the moment and "go with the flow" of the movement of sexual energy |
Progression |
Quick build up and release of sexual energy | Slow build up and release of sexual energy resulting in higher and higher plateaous |
What qualities differ?
Normal Sex |
Tantric Sex |
|
Time |
10 - 30 minutes | Virtually unlimited |
Speed |
Fast | Slow |
Sound |
Quiet & reserved | Verbal & noisy |
Passion |
Rare heights caused by unknown outside factors | Can generate heights of ecstasy at will |
Activity |
Don't stop pumping or you might lose the mood | Start, stop & change at will with lots of variation |
Arousal Reaction |
Tense | Relaxation |
How do you do it?
Normal Sex |
Tantric Sex |
|
Responsibility |
Your lover is responsible for your pleasure | You're responsible for your own pleasure |
Communication |
Private & closed, keeping anxieties within | Lots of feedback, requests & acknowledgement |
Breathing |
Fast, shallow & often out of control or holding of breath | Slow & deep, in and out through the mouth to energize body |
Stimulation |
Erection is very necessary, without - no sex Pre-mature ejactulation is an issue Prolonged erection necessary |
Erection not a necessity Pre-mature ejaculation is not an issue Varying stimulation fulfilling |
Connection |
Superficial physical connection Use each other's body to get off Connection over after orgasm; |
Emotional, spiritual, heart to heart connection Energy connection moving throughout the body & chakras, Afterwards, connection remains and lingers |